The KidConnect team spent a lot of time looking at patterns of behavior in our students. Why? The patterns directed us toward the most current research which has helped us to identify the core of the behavior: Difficulty managing emotions is rooted in emotional dysregulation.
When you are upset, you know you couldn't do a math problem or write an essay? Neither can your students. You also know that when you're upset, it's hard to listen to someone even when they are trying to help you. Again your students feel the same way.
All of that can and does change once we support kids and help them build new pathways to making lasting behavior change.
All kids can benefit from learning how to manage their emotions. Some of students will need significant support while others less. However, what we have seen is that all kids can benefit from support in learning how to manage their emotions. All kids and families experience stress and difficulties in their lives. By teaching kids to understand that their emotions drive their behaviors, they can learn to understand how to manage difficult times in school, at home, and with friends.
We know these kids well. We worry about them and they keep us up at night. These are the students we talk about every week at our team meetings.
The student who argues and refuses to do any schoolwork. The student who showed so much promise last week, but this week had to be removed from class because she won’t stop crying or yelling. The student who mysteriously develops a stomach ache every time it's time to do math.
The students we support carry diagnoses ranging from ADHD, Autism, Nonverbal Learning Disability, or have Mental Health challenges like Anxiety or Depression. Some don’t have an official diagnosis nevertheless they struggle to manage their emotions and their behaviors.
Have you ever thought, wow, these kids are similar? Different diagnoses, yet they all seem to share similar behaviors? Well we’ve thought the very same thing!
"We've seen that these kids all share an underlying difficulty managing their emotions. They share Emotional Regulation or dysregulation at the core of their deficits. Only by addressing the fundamental issue of how students manage their emotions, does academic, social, or even physical education take place."
Lori Jackson, M.S., C.A.G.S.
Founder The Connections Model
Applied Educational and School Psychologist
ALL kids do, from time to time, have challenges managing their behavior in your classroom. Your students can benefit from this support because all kids and families experience stress and difficulties in their lives from time to time. By teaching kids to understand that their emotions drive their behaviors, they can learn to understand how to manage difficult times with friends, family or in school.
A whole class approach to behavior does three things:
Takes a positive approach to behavior modification
Teaches kids that they are in control of how they behave
Removes the stigma associated with behavior issues by focusing on emotions, rather than the behaviors. ALL kids have emotions, not just the “frequent principal office visitors.”